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mothers get a bad rap in todays society. becoming a mother used to be held in such high regard that came with a village of support, love and guidance. women are the portal for new life. to be pregnant in itself takes so much mental and physical energy. yet the societal pressures that have been put on us to disregard the miraculous miracle that is pregnancy and go about daily life and all its physical and mental stressors as if we wouldn’t benefit from extra rest and support is astounding. no woman even wants to discuss their needs in pregnancy or motherhood because society and even other mothers will silence you. in today’s society, motherhood has been reduced to something you may or may not check off a goal list, alongside a lifetime career and a never ending to do list. it has become socially acceptable or unaffordable to stay home and dedicate your time and energy to your spouse or raising the future of this world. and its somewhat understandable that investing your time and energy, full time, in you family will not provide you with financial security or a pension so women are left with the hard choice not to have children or have children and forever struggle with the work-mom life juggling act, which has added to the dysregulation, guilt and fear that most mothers complain about on a daily basis. just look online, the endless accounts that are geared for moms by moms with endless complaints about how to find that balance and reduce our judgments of one another. the accounts that have glorified mommys who drink wine or mommys who rage. the accounts that try to change the world with their little posts in hope to create a more gentler world with gentler moms.   this is the world we have created for ourselves. a world that has become so emotionally dysregulated, so disconnected, so judgmental, so gossipy, so unsupportive of mothers. from our politicians to the school boards, social media agendas and the difference of our mentalities within our own families generational gaps, we have lost how to truly support mothers in this rapidly transformative period in time. the lack of this village for me is more of a dissapointed state of mind in ourselves and the society we have created with our choices the past few decades. anyone can hire a baby sitter, but what mothers are longing for is a familiar and relational village filled with healthy individuals who will love their children the way these amazing future humans would benefit from their love. 

i am a mother. i am a wife. i am struggling with where i can safely fit in a society that is rapidly changing, dysregulated, unnaware and grows further away from a family-encouraged and supported society.